Weddings

Getting Married


We are delighted that you are thinking about getting married in our Parish. We look forward to sharing the celebration with you, and to supporting you in the future.
We take good preparation for marriage very seriously. Christians believe that your love for each other reflects something of God’s love for each of us, and that love is
God’s greatest gift to us. We wish to celebrate with great joy the fact that you have found each other and wish to make this lifelong commitment.


If you are not already a member of the church here, we hope and expect you will strongly consider becoming one. We look forward to working with you as you plan
both your wedding day and the rest of your married life together – and will hope to support you not only in the short-term, but also in the medium and long-term.


Marriage and the Law


In order to be married in any Parish Church in England you have, by law, to meet certain requirements – which have to do with your status as a baptised person,
your resident status in the UK, your place of geographical residence and/or the place where you habitually worship. You can find the 'qualifying connections here:
https://www.parliament.uk/documents/upload/eccmarriagemeasure.pdf

There are also considerations which are relevant to those who have been married before. In accordance with the regulations of the Bishops of the Church of England,
the normal practice for those who have been divorced is for there to be a blessing in church following a civil wedding.
Before you do anything else contact our Parish Administrator or Fr Michael. They will explain the law as it applies to your marriage and will discuss the possibilities of
either a Wedding Service in church (if you are able to fulfil the requirements for this) or (in other circumstances) a Blessing after a Civil Marriage. Whichever is possible,
we aim to support and encourage you as a couple as you begin your married life together.


Marriage Preparation


A wedding day lasts a few hours – but a marriage is a lifetime together. Alongside the preparations you will be making for your ‘big day’, you will be asked
to attend a Wedding Preparation session with Fr Michael where the significance of Christian marriage is stressed and practical advice is given. This will also be an
opportunity to meet and ensure we have recorded your details correctly and arrange for your Banns of Marriage to be called in church. As part of this meeting,
you will receive advice and guidance and make decisions about the resources available to you, such as your choice of music, readings, prayers and flowers for
your Wedding Service.
Underpinning the advice given at these meetings are the convictions that a good marriage depends on the ability to communicate well, to exhibit flexibility, to be
aware of strengths and potential weaknesses in your relationship, to have shared values and to address differences and conflict effectively.


Some resources that may be useful as you plan your wedding day are downloadable here:

Readings: https://www.churchofengland.org/prayer-and-
worship/worship-texts-and-resources/common-worship/marriage#mm101